Our First Time Seeing You

Dear baby,

It has been a while since I wrote to you last. A lot has happened since. Your mommy voted for the first time. That was exciting! We’ve told one or two more friends here and there and told your daddy’s cousin and wife who we are very close to about you. Kruti Auntie was very excited when I told her over sushi and we told Manish Uncle at Thanksgiving dinner. He was so happy he teared up. It was surprising but they will be bringing your big cousin into the world about 5 months before you get here. It’s nice to be going through some of this with family like that.

The biggest piece of news is that we saw you for the first time on Tuesday November 20th.


We confirmed with the doctor that you are definitely 7 weeks old (almost 8 weeks as I’m writing this) and you are due to arrive into this world on July 7, 2013. We saw your heart flickering on the monitor and the doctor told us you had a good strong heartbeat. I felt like a very proud mom at that moment. Every time I laughed it was like you were playing peek-a-boo on the ultra sound and you would hide. It was the best. I can’t wait to see you again already. December 13, 2012 is our next appointment. Until then, my baby.

Love you tons,

Mama Desai ❤



Your Family is really Excited For You

Dear baby Desai,

In case I haven’t told you this yet, your family is super excited about you. Your Mausi is really trying to finish her PhD work before you come along so she can be with us when you get here. I can’t enforce enough how excited your grandparents are. This is probably the most I’ve talked to your Grandma in a while. Not too many people know yet. It’s really hard keeping it to myself, but I know it’s the safest thing to do right now. In addition to family, we have a few close friends we have informed. I told my best friend Nidhi, and dad told his best friend Ryan. Ryan is like family. We consider him our brother. He looks out for us all the time.

Since he found out about you, he’s done an excellent job looking out for you too. During the hurricane he called and texted me a bunch of times (your dad wasn’t here) to see how we were doing and if we needed anything. We went to visit him on Friday and he was good at making sure we were comfortable and even had baby friendly beverages for us! Yay! We invited him over for some yummy bison burgers last night and be brought us cookies. Your dad ate way more than I did last night…I hope this doesn’t become a pattern.

I’m really trying to do everything I can to take care of you. Yesterday was the first time I exercised in a while (you make me very tired!). I am going to try to get back on it today too. Today you are 5 weeks along and the size of a sesame seed! I’m trying to read all the pregnancy stuff I can get my hands on. Since I did close to nothing before we found out about you, I have a lot of catching up to do! I am taking my prenatal vitamins, eating lots of fruits and vegetables and dairy everyday. I am really tying not to eat too much unhealthy stuff. I keep craving Cheez-Itz though! And there was that cookie last night but I had it with a glass of milk so that cancels it out right?

I must sound so silly to you. I’m a dietitian and I’m fussing over eating healthy enough. I’m glad I at least have that knowledge in my background so I know what to be cautious of like raw fish, soft cheeses, and deli meat. Giving up coffee cold turkey was one of the hardest things I had to do. I’m allowing myself some decaf for the taste, but your mama loves coffee! When I was talking to your Grandma yesterday I was talking to her about giving up coffee. She was amazed at how I gave it up so quickly, but I said it didn’t matter how I felt about it, I had to do what was best for you. I’m starting to feel like a mom already. Taking care of you and protecting you is my number 1 priority now.

We have a lot going on all at once. It’s really overwhelming actually! We’re getting ready to move into a new home, we have to get ready to sell this house, the holidays are coming up, and I volunteered to throw dad’s cousin’s wife (Kruti) a baby shower in December. It is not easy to keep up with it all! I want to keep moving forward at my normal pace but I underestimate how tired I get. I’ve been stubbornly trying not to ask for help, but I think I’m going to have to give in. Your dad even acknowledged that he would have to start learning to cook. Let’s see if we can get him off the couch from watching football today and get him in the kitchen!

I think he can do it, he just needs a little push. But we really are so lucky to have so much love and support around us. We have no idea how we would do this without our friends and our family. It really does take a village, even when you’re still just the size of a sesame seed!

Love you so much!

Mama Desai

Surviving Sandy

Dear baby Desai,

We survived Hurricane Sandy! It was really an uneventful two days stuck inside the house with lots of rain and strong wind and working from home. Monday night when the storm was at it its worst, I stayed next door with our awesome neighbors so I wouldn’t be alone if and when the power went out. They took really good care of us that night and made sure we were comfy. I worked from home Monday and Tuesday thinking it would be awesome to be home and pig out, but you don’t seem to be super hungry. I think I have eaten more out of before finding out about you. Maybe I would have pigged out more if I wasn’t actually working. Turned out I wasn’t supposed to be to working because the office was closed. My director got confused about it, realized he messed up and gave me and my boss 2 comp days! Yay! I know I’m already going to need half a day when we go see the doctor for our first ultrasound. It will be the first time we get to see you!

You are bringing me good luck already! I was even able to convince your grandma and grandpa to get out of their cold dark house and stay with family who had power tonight. Unfortunately they lost power during the hurricane. The storm really took its toll on NJ and NY. Half of Manhattan is flooded, much of NJ is without power, the Subways aren’t running and some tunnels are flooded for the first time ever. We got really lucky with Hurricane Sandy here in Delaware (which is where we live now), but there are parts of the east coast that were slammed. We will be moving further away from the coast soon!

Okay my darling…I just wanted to fill you in about the “Epic” storm we just had.


Mama Desai


P.S. It is super hard going through work everyday hiding something from everyone, but I will only tell them when I know we’re in the clear. Part of me is so excited I just want to share it with anyone but for now I try to only talk to you when no one else is around and pat my belly when no one is watching.  ❤